Tuesday, February 9, 2016

Reason, Season, Lifetime

I've heard this saying my whole life, that we have friends for a reason, a season and a lifetime. But it wasn't until recently, like this past year, that I really understood what this meant and how to be okay with friends who fall in the reason/season category. 

Military life and moving around a lot come hand and hand. Unfortunately, Nick and I have witnessed how easy it is to be "out of sight out of mind." When you aren't around people you have relationships with, it takes so much more effort to make those relationships work. You can't meet up for coffee or have people over for dinner. Instead, you have to make time to catch up and grow together in your relationship without seeing each other, and that's hard for a lot of people. When the effort is there mutually, your friendship can grow, even if you haven't seen each other in months/years. 

I really believe people are put into our lives for a reason, a season (like for me recently, when Nick was deployed, pregnancy, and now being a new mama) and a lifetime. Sometimes, those that you meet for a reason and stay for a season end up being lifetime friends, and some do not. And I've learned that I need to be okay with the fact that not every person I meet will become a lifetime friend. I think I expected that for a long time and was constantly disappointed when a season of my life was over and the friendship didn't progress. I need to let go of those relationships that haven't continued, appreciate the ones that come and go naturally for seasons of my life, and be forever thankful for the few that have been there for all of my seasons and I can call my lifetime friends.

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